Self mastery… ultimately, it helps a person gain control of his life and be master of his own destiny.
As a parent, there are many things we do for our children in order to enhance their chances of success and happiness in life. One attribute that we do not often think about is the importance of self-mastery.
Self-mastery (or self-control or self-discipline) is the ability to control one’s impulses and reactions. It allows a person to overcome fears, addictions, and other negative behaviours. It develops patience and improves relationships. Ultimately, it helps a person gain control of his life and be master of his own destiny.
The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person. ― Stephen R. Covey, in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Parents get introduced to the importance of this attribute when their cute adorable child hits the age of the Terrible Two. They get reminded of its importance when the child enters the Turbulent Teens, but if they have not worked at developing the child’s self-mastery in the earlier years, they could face a challenging time.
How can parents help their children develop self-mastery? One way is to set age-appropriate rules in the home. In teaching the children to follow the rules consistently, the children learn to overcome their laziness or sloppiness.
Do you notice regular spoiled-brat behaviours by your children? How are you helping your children to develop self-mastery?